{"id":6239,"date":"2015-01-09T05:25:50","date_gmt":"2015-01-09T05:25:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/abeandlily.darais.com\/?p=6239"},"modified":"2015-01-09T05:25:50","modified_gmt":"2015-01-09T05:25:50","slug":"i-am-the-problem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/abeandlily.com\/index.php\/2015\/01\/09\/i-am-the-problem\/","title":{"rendered":"I am the problem"},"content":{"rendered":"

Today I bought a pass to the Orem Fitness Center. It was 20% off, and waaaay cheaper than our Salt Lake pass. I also discovered a new machine I had never used before: A lateral. I loved it.<\/p>\n

Then I came home and spent the day recovering from my work-out. I kind of think that’s a clue that next time I should go a little easier. At any rate, I made lots of progress in my book, and Lydia played right next to me most of the time. She played more imagination today than she has in a long time, so perhaps being a checked-out mom isn’t all bad.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, by the time I finally did get around to active parenting (post dinner–so sad!), Lydia was so tired that I lost patience with her really quickly. We were working on some preschool workbooks, and by the end we were both a wreck.<\/p>\n

So after a phone call with my family, I resolved to start over and try harder. I went to Lydia, who by then was a bawling, incoherent, hysterical mess, and asked her to forgive me for being so impatient earlier. We sat down and did better! Initially I resolved to do nothing but affirm her in session #2, but since \u00a0I am a compulsive correcter, I couldn’t manage that. What I did manage was correcting more patiently, and Lydia responded beautifully.<\/p>\n

Seriously, events like today’s lead me to believe\u00a0I \u00a0<\/em>am the source of my three year old’s behavior problems. If I could be more patient and kind ALL the time, then maybe she would never throw tantrums. Maybe her tantrums are just my negative energy thrown back at me. \u00a0I don’t know, but I definitely know that when I am more patient and kind, it helps a lot.<\/p>\n

Pivoting: Our neighbors, Lauri and Summer, came over and visited for an hour this evening. Summer is going to babysit the girls next week while I’m at school, so after I gave Summer a run-down on our routines, we all just sat around and visited. I love our neighbors and neighborhood.<\/p>\n

The only picture I managed to take today happened this morning. I thought it came out okay. Mary was chowing down on a lemon, and I ran for my camera…but by the time I got it, she had moved on. The picture still came out, though!<\/p>\n

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